Can We Break Up and Still Be Friends?
Dr Theodor Seuss said “Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened”. No wonder Dr. Seuss is one of the greatest known children’s writers of all time, because he has a sense of composure and optimism that causes children to be happy with life. It may be a simple line, but it bears so much meaning. These simple words might just help you recover from a recently concluded relationship. Is the fact that you have moved on, can smile about what transpired in the past and laugh about the mistakes you both made a sign that you are ready to be friends? Is it really possible that after sharing intimate moments and love, you can really befriend your ex? For some, it may be very easy. But for many a resounding NO is the answer to that question. For those of you who think friendship is not an option here are a few tips that may help you give friendship a chance after a failed romantic relationship.
Learn To Forgive – Forgiving someone who has caused you so much pain can be a very difficult thing. You may feel fine and even think you have let go of the pain caused by a broken marriage or relationship. But are you ready to be friends with your former partner? If not then you may not have completely moved on and truly forgiven your past partner. This means that there are still things you want to avoid and memories that rekindle certain emotions when you see your old flame. The simple cause of these emotions is the failure to forgive him and possibly even yourself for the mistakes you both committed in the past. Learn to let go of all the excess baggage. If you need a platform to air your grief and anger try talking to your ex about what happened. Although he may not be the best partner in the world, for all you know he may have the potential to be your best friend.
Open Lines of Communication – You may need some time to heal before you will be ready to re-open the lines of communication with a past partner. However communication may be the only way for you to end this particular chapter of your life and fill in the gaps created by lost love. Being friends with your ex-lover can be a way to attract harmony in your life. You were once a couple because you saw something special in each other and you probably took that path for a reason. Communication if the first step in establishing a lasting relationship even if it may not be a romantic one. Friendship is a great way to re-start your life and smile with your heart. There is great value in moving on and taking advantage of new opportunities in life, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Moving on will help you find your way to a healthy and balanced love life. If you need help letting go of the past seek a love expert that can help you with specific advice about your unique situation.
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