Can We Break Up and Still Be Friends?

Can We Break Up and Still Be Friends?

Dr Theodor Seuss said “Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened”. No wonder Dr. Seuss is one of the greatest known children’s writers of all time, because he has a sense of composure and optimism that causes children to be happy with life. It may be a simple line, but it bears so much meaning. These simple words might just help you recover from a recently concluded relationship. Is the fact that you have moved on, can smile about what transpired in the past and laugh about the mistakes you both made a sign that you are ready to be friends? Is it really possible that after sharing intimate moments and love, you can really befriend your ex? For some, it may be very easy. But for many a resounding NO is the answer to that question. For those of you who think friendship is not an option here are a few tips that may help you give friendship a chance after a failed romantic relationship.

Learn To Forgive – Forgiving someone who has caused you so much pain can be a very difficult thing. You may feel fine and even think you have let go of the pain caused by a broken marriage or relationship. But are you ready to be friends with your former partner? If not then you may not have completely moved on and truly forgiven your past partner. This means that there are still things you want to avoid and memories that rekindle certain emotions when you see your old flame. The simple cause of these emotions is the failure to forgive him and possibly even yourself for the mistakes you both committed in the past. Learn to let go of all the excess baggage. If you need a platform to air your grief and anger try talking to your ex about what happened. Although he may not be the best partner in the world, for all you know he may have the potential to be your best friend.

Open Lines of Communication – You may need some time to heal before you will be ready to re-open the lines of communication with a past partner. However communication may be the only way for you to end this particular chapter of your life and fill in the gaps created by lost love. Being friends with your ex-lover can be a way to attract harmony in your life. You were once a couple because you saw something special in each other and you probably took that path for a reason. Communication if the first step in establishing a lasting relationship even if it may not be a romantic one. Friendship is a great way to re-start your life and smile with your heart. There is great value in moving on and taking advantage of new opportunities in life, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Moving on will help you find your way to a healthy and balanced love life. If you need help letting go of the past seek a love expert that can help you with specific advice about your unique situation.

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Use These Effective Tips To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Realize He Still Loves You – Bring Him Back Fast

Use These Effective Tips To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Realize He Still Loves You – Bring Him Back Fast

After a breakup, you might think you have lost the love of your life for good. But love does not die overnight and your ex boyfriend still loves you. But if something upset him enough to cause the breakup, he might have buried his love for you. To bring him back fast, you just need to make him realize he still loves you.

Every relationship has its problems and sometimes it seems you would be better to call it quits. Of course one of you won’t agree that breaking up is best and that causes that one to feel rejected. In this case the person feeling the pain of rejection is you. You might have also said some things that you are now sorry you said. That might make you think you should call your ex boyfriend and apologize.

But, you are not able to control your emotions and at the sound of his voice, you begin to cry and beg. When a woman cries, it always makes a man uncomfortable and so he hangs up on you. That sends your emotions into more of a spin and you start to flood him with phone calls, emails and text messages. Your ex boyfriend pulls farther away from you.

If you continue this course of action, you will lose your ex boyfriend forever. Stop and take a deep breath and get a grip on your emotions. The most effective way to make him realize he still loves you, is to take yourself out of his life completely. You can only miss something when it is gone. So, make yourself scarce and give your ex a chance to miss you.

Male psychology will tell you that men always want what they can’t have. As long as you are throwing yourself at him, he won’t want you. But make him think he might lose you and it becomes a different story. Show your ex boyfriend that you can do fine without him. Get involved with other interests. Take some night classes or do some volunteer work. These activities will help keep you from thinking of your ex. Go out with your friends and have a good time.

When he hears of what you are doing, your ex boyfriend will wonder how you have gotten over him so fast. He was sure you would be sitting at home, crying and waiting for him to call. The more he feels you might be slipping away, the more he will desire you. The love for you that he has buried will begin to reappear. When he begins to miss you and realize he still loves you, it will bring him back fast.

H L Archer is well versed in the field of romantic relations having helped many people over the years to solve problems of dating, strained marital relations, divorce, dating after divorce and surviving after a relationship breakup. He would like to extend a helpful hand to you and any others that may be struggling with a romantic relationship.

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Is Calling an Ex Boyfriend You Still Love a Good Idea? Break Up Advice You Need

Is Calling an Ex Boyfriend You Still Love a Good Idea? Break Up Advice You Need

There’s a lot of debate about whether or not calling an ex boyfriend you want back is a good idea. You may have been looking to friends for advice on this recently. Some will tell you that the only want to get your boyfriend back is to call him up and profess your undying love for him. Other friends may tell you that you’ll stand a better chance of getting him back if you contact him with an excuse to talk to him. Perhaps you would say that you’re struggling with a work issue and need his opinion or you need his help moving a piece of furniture. These both sound like logical ways to get a man’s attention again, don’t they? The problem is that they just aren’t going to work.

The reason why calling an ex boyfriend isn’t a good idea is fairly simple. After a break up emotions are all over the place for both partners. As women we tend to feel things on a deeper level and this causes us to react more emotionally. If you call him up when you’re feeling overwrought you are likely going to come across as desperate and unstable. He’ll immediately be uncomfortable talking to you and once the call has ended, he’ll do everything in his power to avoid you again. You don’t want to make this mistake as it complicates the entire process of getting him back.

What you really need to do is avoid calling him altogether. There is so much more value in not calling an ex boyfriend than there is in calling him. You may not realize it right now, but women who act like they don’t care after a break up are the ones who are being chased by their ex boyfriend. Playing hard to get has a lot of merit when it comes to trying to win back a man you love.

If you don’t call him you may think that he’ll forget about you and move on in his life. That’s certainly a possibility, but it’s a remote one. What is more likely to happen is he’ll have trouble focusing on anything but you and the failed relationship. He’ll start to see you in a different, much more positive light. When a person isn’t around we start to miss those unique qualities they brought to our lives and it makes us yearn to be with them again.

Self confidence, willpower and control are the qualities that are going to draw your ex boyfriend back in again. By not calling him and instead showing him that you’re not the emotional mess he thinks you are, you’ll be attracting him back. Remember, that often in life and in love, less is more.

Learn exactly what you need to be doing and saying to win your ex boyfriend back. Doing the wrong thing can mean the end of the relationship forever.

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Relationship Trust Building Tips for Men Who STILL Love Their Wives

Relationship Trust Building Tips for Men Who STILL Love Their Wives

By Otto Collins

The headlines are filled with stories of celebrity couples who are splitting up because one (or both) had affairs. You might look around you at your male friends, family members or co-workers who are so focused in on their careers, hobbies or other interests that they pretty much take their wives for granted.

Their marriages undoubtedly show the signs of neglect.

When you observe the marriages of those around you, it may be dis-heartening. You might feel like you are one of the few men out there who still loves his wife and wants to do whatever he can to create a healthy, passionate and connected relationship.

You may also want to make sure that you do your part to keep the relationship trust strong between you and your spouse.

The good news is this: You are not alone. There are men (and women) out there who do still love their partner and who care deeply about their marriage.

The other good news is that you CAN bolster trust and sustain the closeness and love you share with your wife. This can actually prevent infidelity.

Here are 3 ways to do just that…

#1: Make sure that your woman knows she is a priority to you.

Don’t assume that your wife knows how important she is to you. Too many men take it for granted that, after a period of time, they don’t need to express their love and appreciation for their partner as often as they used to.

This isn’t about your woman being needy or insecure. What it IS about is you continuing to let her know how much you adore her. Find ways to regularly convey the message that she is a priority to you.

Does this mean that you have to drop everything, ignore your career aspirations or your other interests in order to keep your marriage strong and alive?

Of course it does not.

You can actually make room in your mind, and your life, for the possibility of having multiple priorities.

Letting your woman know that she is priority to you can mean something as simple as calling her to let her know you’ll be late from work that night. It may also mean that you tell her how beautiful she looks, even when she’s wearing normal, everyday clothing.

#2: Keep growing…together

There’s nothing worse for a relationship than stagnation. When you and your wife stop growing and learning– both as individuals and as a couple– that’s when troubles can easily arise.

Give yourself permission and an invitation to grow beyond where you are right now. This might mean that you face some of those habits you have that mostly cause inner turmoil and struggle in your life. Have the courage to face those tendencies that limit you and try out some new ways of being.

The same goes for your marriage. Without judgment or criticism, identify those relationship habits that have developed over the years and learn some new strategies that can help you and your wife act and respond differently to one another.

Be supportive and appreciative of your spouse’s growth strides too. Change can be an exciting, connecting and passion-inducing addition to a marriage.

#3: Stay open…to yourself and to your woman

If you do feel triggered, upset or somehow distant from your spouse, make the deliberate choice to open up to yourself and to your woman.

Take the time to regularly go within and become clear about what is bothering you or how you are feeling in general.

Make it your intention to be as open to your spouse as you can be as much of the time as possible. Does this mean that you’ll always be open to her.

Probably not.

What is does mean is when you recognize that you’re shutting down, you figure out what’s going on inside of you and between you and your woman and then you go to her with an invitation to re-connect.

Otto Collins teaches men from all over the world how to Light Up their woman and get the love, passion and intimacy back in their relationship. Get Otto’s FREE report:  “The 10 Biggest Relationship & Passion-Killing Mistakes Men Make” and what to do about them when you sign up for his FREE relationship advice for men newsletter atwww.LightHerUp.com

True Friends Are Hard to Find – But, Still Find One

True Friends Are Hard to Find – But, Still Find One

It is nice to be good , but it is good to be nice, whatever.

When it comes to friendship, one must ensure that he can be the best friend of himself. Or else, other would not accept him as one.

People from all walks of life really need someone to enjoy life, the adventures and misadventures of being authentic in this hypocrite society. Well, sounds a rebel or what, huh?

Anyways, it is not bad to seek acceptance coming from same minded persons or people of your same wavelengths, etc. In fact, it is a must to mingle with smart people than with those who are not. Yes, it is so hard to get acquainted with someone who is not in your domain. Like, mal-educated ones acting as properly schooled on important aspects of life, say, on social skills as in knows how to handle their own weak points of character like gossiping, as if he is perfect, virtues, moral and the like.

Yes, people acting as friends to you are really dangerous. They know vital things about you and can divulge private things about you, or can simply intrude acting as so-called well-intentioned –or just concerned –and helping you in the process. Hahaha

Bravo! Thanks, but no thanks. Instead of hiding in your pretensions, why not be authentic and make yourselves exposed. Do not hide in your so-called alibis and think you get other people’s approval for doing such a thing. Time will come such pretensions and all will be exposed, and the truth will come out sending you scampering away like a mouse.

Well, this article is not about calling the attention of a friend or what, but it is for every one who has been a victim of false friend/s. Yes, it is sad to know that friendship ended in sour because of a friend’s handicap in his personality and all.

Nobody wants to know that a friend is a traitor, etc. simply because one believes that his friend has been nice and good. Or one could not believe that he has gotten a crap instead of liquefied gold.

The author is a mentor of teachers in elementary grades in the Philippines. Aside from being a grade school teacher, he is also contributing articles to magazines just to make good use of his spare time. He has joined writing contest in the past, but until now, he is dreaming of bagging an award! This is why, he is now trying his luck in this endeavor–blogging– to find his niche and somewhere, somehow find a way of publishing a book.

Still in Love With Your Ex and in Need of Some Break Up Help?

Still in Love With Your Ex and in Need of Some Break Up Help?

If you feel that you are still in love with your ex and think you need some break up help, there are some decisions you have to make. It’s really quite simple – either you try and move on and find someone new or you try and win them back.

If you have made the decision to move on, the kind of break up help you will need is determined by how bad the end of the relationship was. A very emotional break up will require lots of time to heal and to fully get over any feelings you still have. Any break up can take it’s toll, some worse than others.

The best thing you can do at this time is to take care of yourself, especially if you find that you are still in love with your ex. This means emotionally and physically. So many of us take it out on ourselves and beat ourselves up over bad decisions. We are only human and we can only do our best with what we have. Taking care of yourself is the best break up help you need. Just make sure you are focusing on you, not your ex.

It’s also important to regain your self-esteem and to feel emotionally well again. Sometimes this can only be done by talking to a professional counselor. The sooner you do this, the better it will be for you.

If, on the other hand, you want to try and get your ex back, then the kind of break up help you need will differ slightly from what was outlined above. You should still follow the guidelines, which was to take care of yourself and speak to a professional in order to gain your composure and get your self-esteem back.

The one difference will be to make contact with your ex, but only after you have let things calm down. This should be done somewhere very neutral, maybe a public place. Once you have set the date and it’s time to meet, remember to stay calm and don’t get all emotional. Explain to your ex that you still have feelings for them and that you’d like a second chance. Remember to take the time to listen to their side, even if you don’t agree with them. 

After you have had this meeting, you will have to wait for them to call you. Give your ex some time to think things through. Although you have followed everything in this break up help, this is in no way a guarantee that it will work out. Relationships can go either way and you need to prepare yourself for that.

As with any relationship, there is bound to be conflict. Learning to get through the bad times is part of maturity. If you find that your relationship is not going the way you wanted it to and you are in need of some advice, I invite you to visit my site Mending Broken Relationships. While you are there please sign up for my newsletter which will give you weekly tips and articles on getting the romance back into your relationship and finding love again.

Break Up Advice When You Still Love Your Ex

Break Up Advice When You Still Love Your Ex

They’ve dumped you but you are still love your ex. Now it is either the time to move on or you need some break up advice when you still love your ex.

When you feel that your time has come to move on, the advice you want will be proportional to how badly things went at the end of the relationship. If you were mentally drained by the split, you are going to need a long time to sort yourself out and get back on your feet again.

You must start by looking after yourself after so much stress. So don’t go in for a lot of self criticism after what has happened. You no doubt did all you could in the circumstances. Any help you may need must be for you; you are apart now and, as far as recovering is concerned, it must be each one for themselves. You may still feel very much in love but you must start by looking after yourself and letting them do likewise.

Where you feel it can help you, take some advice to help you put the past in perspective as quickly as possible. You’ve got to fight to escape from your emotional state and recover your self confidence.

When you are seeking advice on how and to recover your ex, you must set up a strategic plan to meet this objective. Leave your ex alone for the next few weeks while you recover your senses and lost pride and determine where you go from here.

When you have sorted yourself out, you can think about calling your ex You should try to get them to meet you on neutral ground. You want to tell them about the feelings you still have for them and that you think it is worth having another go to get the relationship going again. You don’t want to be emotional about things so be sure to stay calm. It is important that you listen to what they have to say even if you do not agree with them.

Let them have the time they need to think things over and wait for them to contact you. You have an even chance that things will work out. So don’t blame yourself if it doesn’t go as you wish but be content that you have done all you can to get them back.

Finally, I suggest you read a book entitled “The Magic of Making Up” written by T ‘Dub’ Jackson, He has a lifetime of experience helping people, the world over, sort out their relationship problems, and his book will likely help you to solve your own.

Joe Bisley

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Getting Your Girlfriend Back is Still Possible – Even If You Said I Love You Too Early

Getting Your Girlfriend Back is Still Possible – Even If You Said I Love You Too Early

A common mistake most guy make in a relationship is they say them 3 little words too early on in the relationship and it can have devastating results. Getting your girlfriend back is not totally out of the picture if you said “I love you” too early on.

Here is the deal. By the time a girl reaches her twenties to early thirties she has had a lot more short term relationships, dates and first dates than men of the same age. So in the relationship us as guys are like an amateur boxer going up against a professional. Yes she is the pro here. Since they have typically been in more of these short term relationship then you sprinkle a few long term relationships maybe even a marriage or 2, we are at a serious disadvantage because they have seen it all.

Women are sizing us up from the first time they meet us. Now she was initially attracted to you so we need to correct what was wrong and if you can figure it out then you have a great chance of getting your girlfriend back. They see these little signs or red flags and as the relationship progresses we lose points until it leads to the break up.

If you said I love you too early even if she says it back will usually make it game over soon enough. They key to getting your girlfriend back is usually just time and not being too needy to her. There is no set time limit but a rule of thumb is it usually takes a minimum of a year after the honeymoon phase of the relationship wears off and a true love can be felt. Usually in the early months what we feel is lust and women are well aware of this.

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Show Your Ex Boyfriend You Still Love Him – Advice For Women

Show Your Ex Boyfriend You Still Love Him – Advice For Women

You still love your ex boyfriend, then you need to show him. Sometimes the ex boyfriends are the last to know that someone still cares for them. It may be easier than you think. Be yourself and start with the little less obvious things to show your ex boyfriend you still love him and want him back. Put serious thought into the following ideas and you will be greatly surprised at this reaction.

First, put your ex boyfriends feelings, wants, and needs above your own. Once the initial breakup has happened, respect his feelings, especially if he asks for time apart. This seems strange but do not call, email, or beg to see him it will only push him away real fast and you may never get another chance. The time apart he is asking for shows just to respect his feelings for a little while, this does not mean forever.

One of the best ways to show your ex boyfriend you still love him is be his best friend, let him know you care about what is happening in his life, good and bad. Make sure to let him know he will always be a big part of your life. The best advantage of being a great friend especially an ex boyfriend is the level of trust and love that develops. A bond develops when true friendship has time to grow, even between guys and girls. You will be surprised how fast those feelings will change once those feelings materialize from friendship to love. Becoming friends, building trust and reminding each other why you fell in love is the best place to start.

The assistance you need is the Magic of Making Up an outstanding e-book. In The magic of making you will discover some very straightforward ways and methods that will show you how to get your ex boyfriend back. They are basic suggestions and genuine down to earth methods although some what unusual to help you to get your ex boyfriend back. That’s why it is called The magic of making up, an e-book that can make you delight in the true sense of love fully transformed and revitalized. This magic of making up lays down all the necessary ingredients and simple yet unusual procedures needed to get your ex boyfriend back.

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I’m Still in Love, But My Ex May Not Be in Love With Me

I’m Still in Love, But My Ex May Not Be in Love With Me

If this thought has crossed your mind, it can seem like an impossible situation to deal with and handle appropriately. Getting straight to the point, just because your ex may have said they no longer love you it doesn’t mean it’s true. Of course it may be true, but it’s also quite possible that they still have feelings for you. Couples that still love each other break up all the time.

If you really do still have these undying feelings for your ex and are still in love, then there is a good chance they may still have similar feelings for you. If this is the case, don’t assume that this means you should get back together. Now is a great time to think long and hard about things (this applies whether it was you OR them that ended things). There is a chance that the break up was the right thing in the long run, but it can be so hard to realize this when your heart is aching.

Was the break up mutual? If so, it’s very important to analyze why the two of you thought it was a GOOD idea to go your separate ways. If you don’t do this and approach the question of getting back together rationally, you may end up stuck in a relationship that was doomed from the get go.

Even if your significant other wants to get back together, it does not mean that things will just magically work themselves out and you’ll be back on the road to eternal happiness. Remember, the reasons you broke up have not disappeared. Furthermore, if you do get back together, can you tackle the issues surrounding the break up? Remember, getting back together may cause you to temporarily (I emphasize temporarily) forget the issue at hand, but if you don’t tackle it you will be toast (at least eventually). Don’t forget, if you get back together with your ex because you still love them, but you did not get down to the bottom of the issue and handle it you’ll be doomed.

You have to solve the problem at it’s core. This can be hard to do, but if you employ a step by step system to Save Your Relationship AND SOLVE the main issues at hand, you will be much better off. If you still Love Your EX, you’ve gotta start using our incredible system that has save thousands of relationships. It’s like counseling in a box (more like on your pc) AND without the monstrous cost.