Is He Afraid of Commitment? Five Simple Ways to Cure His Phobia
Has he said, “I Love You,” but isn’t ready to take things to the next step? Afraid he’ll never pop the question? Do you wonder if he’ll ever be ready to be with you and only you? Many men are afraid of commitment and sometimes it is because of their own insecurities and sometimes it’s because they are afraid that this relationship might not be the right one. Follow these steps and you’ll not only help him get over his phobia, but make him realize that the relationship he has is the one he wants.
Show him that you’ve got other things in your life.
Don’t act like he’s your entire world, and be ready for him whenever he calls. If you do this he’ll always feel like he’s got nothing to gain by committing. If he wants more of you then he’s going to have to give more of himself. So take a hobby, hang out with your friends, and have fun with him and without him.
Get him to say I Love You and often.
If he hasn’t said it yet, then start the small hints and nudges to get him to. Once he has said it, make sure he says it often, not twenty times a day mind you, but perhaps every time you see each other. Don’t force him to say it, but coax him into it. If he says it on his own, then the more he says it the more he’ll realize he means it and be ready for that commitment.
Don’t let him do and buy everything
Guys do like to treat their girls special and do nice things for them. Once and awhile is fine, but don’t spend every date at expensive restaurants, even if he offers. And don’t let him fix things around the house or your car all the time, even if he offers. The reason for this is that he may wake up one day and feel like he’s being taken advantage of, even if he’s doing it all on his own. Offer to have someone else help you out or pay for dinner once and awhile, or show him that pizza and a movie at home are just as nice.
Let him confide in you
The worst thing you can do is make your guy feel bad about being who he is. Listen to what he likes or what his problems are without being judgmental. You can have your own opinion and voice them, but first and foremost be supportive of him. This will let him feel like he can always talk to you and depend on you.
Give him his freedom
Don’t try to control his life or who he sees. Men tend to fear change, and if you show him that a relationship with you means big changes, he’s likely to run in the other direction. Let him have his friends and his routine, and if you feel there need to be changes, do it gradually.
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